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Golden Rule at Work

Created Oct 30, 2026, 5:01 AM · Updated Oct 30, 2026, 5:01 AM

Treat colleagues the way you want to be treated - in email tone, credit, deadlines, and hallway gossip.

Key Concept

  • It is active, not passive: do the helpful thing, do not only avoid harm.
  • The check is experiential - how would you want feedback delivered, how would you want to be included, how would you want a mistake handled?
  • Gospel depth lives in The Golden Rule; this is the version used before hitting send.
  • Listen Before Fixing and Follow Their Lead apply the rule when roles flip.
  • Love Your Enemies is the harder edge when the colleague is not an ally.

Level 1 - Recognize

Golden rule at work means doing the helpful thing you would want done - active, not passive avoidance of harm.

Level 2 - Explain

Like holding a door you would want held - step in on the tedious task, not just stay out of the way.

Level 3 - Use

Ask what you would want if roles flipped - then do that helpful move instead of only keeping your head down.

Level 4 - Connect

Passive fairness leaves people stuck - because you would want someone to act for you, the rule pushes you to act.

Level 5 - Create

Create a team norm for feedback, credit, and tedious work by writing the treatment you would want when roles reverse.

Examples

  • My draft to the new team manager was needlessly harsh - glad I paused and rewrote it how I would want correction on my worst day.
  • The group chat piled on the neighbor's messy yard - I asked how I would want feedback if my lawn looked that way, then stayed quiet.

Note Relationships

RelationshipWikilinkReason
alternativeLove Your EnemiesFair treatment for allies vs harder love when someone actively opposes you
contradictsPareto Principlewhen I optimize for my 20% and treat the other 80% as disposable
extendsFollow Their LeadReverse roles includes entering their thread first
extendsListen Before FixingTreat them how you would want - heard before fixed
extendsThe Golden RuleSame ethic with meeting-room language instead of sermon vocabulary
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