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Notice the Good

Created Aug 6, 2026, 6:37 AM · Updated Aug 6, 2026, 6:37 AM

Notice the good means naming the specific helpful move so people know what to repeat.

Key Concept

  • “Good job” teaches nothing. “Your rebounds won that scrimmage” teaches the rep.
  • Specific praise names the behavior I want again - that is how Process Over Outcomes sounds out loud.
  • Vague thanks flatters; spelled-out moves give people something to repeat tomorrow.
  • The stake is reinforcement: praise the scoreboard and the steady process stays invisible.

Level 1 - Recognize

Notice-the-good means praise the exact move you want copied - specific feedback, not empty approval.

Level 2 - Explain

Good job says nothing; your rebounds won that game tells them exactly what to do again - like pointing at the move that worked instead of clapping with no detail.

Level 3 - Use

Praise the exact rep that worked - vague approval feels nice and changes nothing about tomorrow's behavior.

Level 4 - Connect

Specific praise can strengthen the process, but praise tied only to outcomes hides steady work and praise without truth becomes manipulation - Process Over Outcomes keeps the target honest.

Level 5 - Create

Create a feedback habit that joins Gentleness with precise Coaching Ethics, then Complete the Cycle by naming the next repeatable move instead of stopping at Name the Feeling.

Examples

  • After practice I told the kid who boxed out every drill that his rebounds won the scrimmage and he should keep sealing like that.
  • I emailed the intern that catching the duplicate invoice before I did saved us a call - specific beats a generic thanks slide.

Note Relationships

RelationshipWikilinkReason
contradictsOutcomes Over Pitch Deckswhen only results get praised and the steady process gets ignored
extendsContinuous ImprovementNaming what worked feeds the next rep
extendsProcess Over OutcomesI reinforce the behavior in the loop, not only the score
extendsThe Golden RuleSpecific praise is how I would want to be treated
implementsFollow Their LeadSometimes the best lead to follow is the good thing they already did
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