Reconcile Before the Review

Reconcile before the review - fix the relationship before OKRs, demos, or reorg meetings.

Key Concept

• Fix the relationship breach before OKRs, demos, or reorg meetings.
• Process does not heal a broken trust link.
• The person who knows there is a breach moves first - a short call, an owned apology, a specific repair - then we talk OKRs.
• Same order as Reconciliation Before Worship, minus the religious frame: relationship before ritual performance.
• Listen Before Fixing and Follow Their Lead start repair on their thread before the scorecard opens.
• The Golden Rule and Golden Rule at Work frame repair before the scorecard.
• Note Relationships is the garden parallel for broken links.

Level 1 - Recognize

Reconcile before the review means repairing the relationship rift before performance reviews, demos, or reorg meetings - relationship before agenda.

Level 2 - Explain

If you and a coworker are not okay, fix that first - like making peace before you sit down to score the quarter.

Level 3 - Use

Text your business partner after a blowup over a missed invoice - ten minutes of repair, then get on the client renewal call together.

Level 4 - Connect

Because unresolved hurt poisons feedback, reconciliation precedes evaluation - the scorecard cannot substitute for peace or process without repair.

Level 5 - Create

Build a pre-review breach check from Reconciliation Before Worship: the person who knows there is a rift owns it. Repairs it, then opens the scorecard.

Examples

• Strong stats for scout meeting but my assistant coach was cold from Tuesday - glad fifteen minutes with him came first.
• Client renewal was booked but my partner and I had not spoken since a blowup - I texted first, we talked, then joined.

Note Relationships